A
Very Simple Question:
Unlike
just about everything else in life, I find that moms don’t tend to ask the “Is
this helping?” as the primary and decisive question when looking for,
continuing with, or thinking about, seeking or changing types or providers of
help (therapists, psychologists, counselors, psychiatrists, tutors, coaches,
etc..)
Keep
in mind, if the plumber doesn’t do a good job or the tailor or the car mechanic
or the lawn guy, you change. That’s what
you should do if the therapy, counseling, coaching, medication isn’t helping.
Simple, right?
Well, only if you have created criteria by
means of which to evaluate. You do know
if the plumber fixed the leaky faucet, if your clothes fit better or the car is
running.
Can you know if the help is
helping? Yes, you can.
I can’t tell you how many moms I’ve spoken
with over the years who tell me they are seeing “the best therapist. I really like him. Morgan has been seeing him for years.” My first question is always, “And have you
seen improvement?” Often, oh! all too very often, the answer is, “Well,
no....” And I hear the confusion at the
other end of the line because this mom, like so many other moms had never
really allowed herself to ask the question, “Is this helping?”
Think
about it: If it isn’t helping either the
professional isn’t whom you need or the problem has been oversimplified,
jargonized, simply not been understood.
We’ll be providing more and more information on how to do better to find
your child the help each of you needs.
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